Last night my daughter and I went to sit in the hot tub for a bit and I figured this would be some good Mother, daughter bonding time so I ask her how her trip was….(her Grade 8 class went to Shekinah to camp for 3 days) and she was telling me about all her little adventures……including the boys who like to bug her and suddenly, out of the blue, my lovely, innocent little baby states quite boldly…..”Mom I think I am going to start dating when I turn 14!” The World as we know it just stopped as I realized she is turning 14 in 8 weeks………So much for the relaxing part of sitting in the hot tub ……. and this is a loose version of the conversation we had…….”Oh really” I said, trying to remain calm. “I don’t think so, you are not allowed to date until your 30!” MOM, that is so unfair…….how about double dates or group dates? “Nope….you can only date when you are ready to get married and that won’t be for a loooooong time!” “So you are saying that I’m not ready to get married until I am 30?” “Yup” “But Mom I want to have 12 kids…….(I was swooning at this point) I have to get married a little younger than that” “12 kids” I croaked…..” Wow…… you’d better marry rich”…..”and do you know how painful it is to have children?” “MOM, I’m going to adopt some of them” she stated……”How about letting me date when I am 16″ ….. How did this become a negotiation I wondered? ” Ok, if you can find a boy who will come and ask our permission to date you!” “Mom that is so old fashioned”……..”YUPPERS”……..”Mom you are so unrealistic this is the new millennium…..no guy will ever want to do that” “I guess then you will never date”……”I’m going to talk to Dad…..this is sooo unfair” she said as she got out of the hot tub and stomped into the house……..and I wondered how suddenly Dad had become the reasonable one?
(As a side note…..today we find out from my Son that there is a boy that likes her at the church and of course we are always the last to find these things out. Where was I when this was developing……did I have my head in the sand? I must have!)