Well today I watched this show for the very first time and it really brought up something that I think WE need to think about. Not that I really liked the show that much but it really got me thinking…………
What is your view of beauty? Do you avoid, pick on or just plain hate people who do not fit to the World’s standard or your personal standard of beauty?
I have some fairly strong views on this so I hope I you will consider what I say before you rush to judgement. I really feel that because of the Hollywood and magazine’s that do allot of “touch ups” that our society has a distorted view of what beauty is. I think that avoiding someone is just as bad as picking on them. We don’t take a stand or we perpetuate the problem by picking on others who look different are the reasons our suicide rate is so high and is climbing daily. I believe that my children have it allot harder than I did when I was in school………the kids these days are meaner, bolder and cruel! There are several adult who are like this to but they will do whatever it takes to make others feel bad about themselves to make themselves feel better about who they are. This kind of insecurity in my opinion partially comes from Parents are do not take care of and discipline their children, they let their children rule the roost, do whatever they want and therefore create insecure children. Children need boundaries, direction and guidance in choosing to do what is right, if you don’t give that to them you grow insecurity in your children. Now before you ask the question I will answer it…….YES….I spanked my children when they were younger! I loved them enough to know that their strong wills would take over if I didn’t. I know there are allot of people opposed to spanking so I will say this….never spank when you are angry…..there are allot of alternative ways to discipline your children…….this is what worked for me. I have two very strong-willed children and we have allot of critics in our family over our disciplining methods but I really believe and take my responsibility in raising them seriously, I have made allot of mistakes in raising them but using spanking has not been one of them. They know how much I love them……because I tell them a million times a day……….but I believe they are such great kids because we discipline them…………so onto the beauty issue…..
I am no magazine cover girl……never have been…….I’ve always been chubby or “pleasantly plump” as some would say, I was alienated allot as I was growing up. My sister was always the beautiful one…..still is in some people’s view……it took me years to get to a place where I saw myself as beautiful and what bothers me most is the person who is beautiful thinks she is not which frankly just perpetuates the stero type of beauty. She is constantly worried about her looks, worried about getting older, and frankly it really hurts me that she is the way she is because she knows that she is beautiful, she just needs constant affirmation. Don’t get me wrong I care about how I look, I try to take care of myself but I do not and WILL NOT ever be so worried about my looks that I will be seeking people to constantly build me up and be constantly watching what I eat and be so parinoid all the time. I am beautiful………..and some of the reason I am fat is because I have rebelled against the standard I have always been compared to. Do I want to lose weight? Sure but I am afraid to turn out like my sister and I am sure she would say the reason she works out madly is because she doesn’t want to be fat like me………it’s an endless cycle. I love my sister………she is one of the most beautiful people I know, I just wish she knew that for herself.
I had a interesting conversation with my daughter today………she obviously does not have a weight problem. We talked about what beauty means and she said something that took me by surprise, “I will never have a weight problem” she said “because I take care of myself and do lots of sports and I think I am beautiful and so are you Mom, God just put different packages together for us, I will love you no matter what”. Wise words from a 13 year old I think. I think she hit it on the head, she takes care of herself (which I have taught her)and she already thinks she is beautiful(which I & her Dad have told her a million times) so I doubt she will ever have a weight problem………that is the key combination I think, knowledge & belief in who you are right now………needless to say I am extremely proud of the young lady she is turning out to be!
So Here is a question to ponder “what is the voice in your head telling you about your beauty?” Don’t perpetuate societies view of beauty……set your own standard! Reach out to people who would get passed over by the world because of their looks because chances are that they are the most beautiful people, inside!
We are all created unique, different and that is a good thing……….let’s celebrate our differences!